DEAR DEIDRE: THE moment I met a married man we hit it off and we’ve been having naughty sex, but now he won’t answer my calls.
His little girl attends the nursery school where I work and we met when he walked in to look around the premises.
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He’s an executive director at a big marketing company. I know he’s very busy but he always had time for me.
He’s 41 and I’m 21. He’s your typical tall, dark and handsome guy with a flashy smile and a sharp suit. His daughter is cute as a button too.
He got delayed in a meeting a year ago and I stayed late with his daughter when everyone went home. He arrived in such a fluster and he was so apologetic.
He gave me a lift home and said: “I can’t thank you enough for what you did tonight. Can I buy you dinner?” I was taken aback but I said: “Well, that would be lovely — thank you.”
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He picked me up two nights later and we went to a pub. There were things on the menu I’d not even heard of but he ordered some incredible food for me.
He drove me back home and I was a bit tipsy because of the wine I’d had. He walked me to the front door and I invited him in.
My parents were out with friends. He put his hand on the wall next to my head and lifted my chin up to kiss me. He said: “You’re a very attractive girl. Can I make love to you?”
We went up to my room and he was such a considerate lover. He knew what to do to give me the most mind-blowing orgasm.
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We started seeing each other in secret.
We couldn’t always meet for long but he found a way we could have more great sex.
But things have started to drift now. We talk on Snapchat but he’s not even opening my messages now.
I know he has a terrible sex life with his wife. Why won’t he respond?
He hasn’t got the backbone to tell you that he wants out but he’s hoping you grow tired with his lack of response.
Face it – it is unlikely he would leave his wife and anyway, you two are at such different life stages.
You have both had your fun but he has thought better of getting too involved and he is doing you a favour.
At least now you can’t be accused of compromising your professional integrity as a nursery assistant.
You deserve better. Giving yourself a chance of finding a partner for a longer-term, open and honest, loving relationship would be better than a no-strings, dead-end affair.
My e-leaflet Your Lover Not Free? will help you understand it is best to move on, for your own sake.
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