6 top sex positions and how to train for them

To perform at your best, mobility, strength, and flexibility are essential. Oh, and we’re talking about performing your best in the bedroom just to be perfectly clear.

You don’t want a kink (the bad kind) throwing off your rhythm, and you definitely don’t want to lose steam halfway through. To make sure you’re prepared for everything, Liz Lowe, Strength and Conditioning Specialist located in Sarasota, Florida, created a roundup of exercises to help you nail—or, rather, perfect—basic and no-so-basic sex positions. 

Limber up, boys—then hit the weights, 'cus if you drop your partner mid-sex, odds are she won't be coming back for more.

The Warm-Up

Certain yoga postures are great for helping you loosen up for a workout—or whatever sex positions you’re trying to become better at. Before doing any of the following workouts, start with 8 to 10 rounds of this basic yoga flow.

Start by reaching your arms overhead and bend forward reaching your hands towards the ground. Place hands on the ground and jump or step your feet back into a plank position. Slowly lower yourself down in a pushup position till you are on the ground and then, leaving your legs down push your upper body up and off the ground arching your back and looking straight up into your Upward Facing Dog pose. From here, come back down to the floor and push your hips towards the ceiling into Downward Facing Dog. From this position, jump or step your feet back up to in between your hands and slowly come back to standing stretching your arms overhead. Repeat.

*Train For Missionary

Even though this is a basic position, a stable core, strong glutes, and muscular endurance will help you go all the way. 

Best Exercise: Plank with Leg Extension

The Workout:
Start by holding a basic plank on your forearms with hands apart. In this position lift the right leg as high as you can while maintaining the plank and keeping the leg straight. Lower it down and repeat with the other side. Keep your core stable and try not to rock your hips side-to-side while performing the leg lifts.  Start with 4 sets of 15-20 per side. Keeping the reps high will help with the much-needed stamina involved with this position and the exercise will stabilize the core while activating and strengthening the glutes. Add this exercise in at the end of your leg day or in an ab circuit.  

*Train For Doggy Style

Every girl wants a guy who can move his hips well. Having optimal hip mobility and keeping the muscles of the hip strong are key for doing it doggy style. 

Best Exercise: Doggy Style hip series
Start each exercise on the ground on hands and knees in table-top position. In this position keeping your back flat and without rocking side to side perform 4 sets of each exercise in the series in a circuit fashion.

The "Move Your Hips Better" Workout:
A. Fire Hydrants (Keeping your knee bent, abduct your leg so you are raising your leg up like a dog would if they were peeing on a fire hydrant. Lower it back down; repeat for all 15 reps on one side and then 15 reps on the other.)
B. Hip Circles (Still maintaining a bent knee and flat back bring the knee into the chest and then circle the leg out clockwise. Once you have completed 15 clockwise circles reverse directions and complete 15 counterclockwise circles. Repeat both clockwise and counterclockwise on the other leg.)
C. Donkey Kicks (Bring the knee all the way into the chest and then kick the leg out and up keeping the knee bent and your foot dorsi-flexed so the bottom of your foot is facing directly up. Bring the knee back into the chest and repeat the movement for 15 reps on one side; switch and complete 15 reps on the other side.)

*Train For Cowgirl

No girl wants to have to do all the work when she’s on top and she doesn’t want to be looking down at a guy with a bird chest either. So do us a favor and strengthen your core, hip flexors, and get acquainted with universal chest day (It’s Monday for those who are unaware of what day the masses get on the bench.) This workout uses the hips to move the weight so your “thrusting” motion becomes stronger. Do the following as a circuit, aiming for 3-4 rounds total. 

Best Exercises: Hang Clean, Romanian Dead Lift, Kettlebell Swing, Barbell Hip Thrust

The "Better Hip Thrust" Workout:
A. Hang Clean x 8
B. RDL x 8
C. Kettlebell Swing x 15
D. Barbell Hip Thrust off bench x 12

At the end of each rep be sure to push your hips forward and squeeze your glutes to finish the lift.

*Train For Legs Up On Shoulders

This position involves you being partially upright while only leaning a little weight into your girl’s legs. This is going to use all the muscles along your posterior chain to stabilize you so you don’t collapse on her. A strong back and hamstrings along with the stabilizing postural muscles will prevent the embarrassment of having to switch positions because your low back hurts and you don’t have the strength to hold the posture. 

Best Exercises: Deadlifts, Bent-Over Rows and Band Pull-Aparts.
Incorporating Deadlifts, Rows and band work into your weekly routine will help you strengthen your entire posterior chain, save you from killing the mood because of your backache, and make your overall performance better. 

The "Perfect Posture" Workout:
A. 3 x 6 Deadlift (Weight needs to be in the heels and shoulders back throughout the entire lift.)
B. 3 x 6-8 Bent Over Rows (Make sure shoulders are back and back is flat, holding at the top of the row for a second is key for perfecting your posture.)
C. 3 x 8 each side Single Leg Romanian Deadlift
D1. 3 x 15 Prone DB Incline Fly
D2. 3 x 20 Band Pull-Aparts 

*Train For Spooning

Any time you are on your side you’re going to be engaging your core and obliques. A solid ab circuit will make sure you're strong enough to hold yourself in this side position and (perhaps more importantly) get you a better looking core so you don’t have to turn the lights off every time you do the deed. Try and get through 15 reps of each exercise in circuit form and aim for 3-4 rounds.

Best Exercises: Suspension trainer core work, Side Planks, and Toes to Bar.

The "Keep The Lights On" Ab Workout:
A. Suspension trainer Crunch
B. Suspension trainer Oblique Crunch
C. Suspension trainer Mountain Climbers
D. Side Plank with Leg Abduction
E. Side Plank with Hip Lift
F. Toes to Bar

*Train For Sex Standing Up

Whether you have your girl up against a wall, or any position where you are standing and holding her up, you are going to need to be strong. No girl wants to feel like she’s going to be dropped because you can’t handle her weight. Having a strong set of arms and traps that wont fatigue easily will ensure you can make the most out of this intense position.  Aim for 3-4 sets of 10-12 reps for each superset and perform a heavy Farmers Carry in between exercises.

Best Exercises: Curls, Shrugs, and Farmer's Carry

The “Make Your Girl Feel Light As a Feather” Workout:
A1. Shrugs
A2. Upright Rows

Farmers Carry till failure

B1. Barbell Narrow Grip Curls
B2. Dumbbell 21’s

Farmers Carry till failure

C1. Weighted Dips
C2. Skull Crushers

Farmers Carry till failure

Ask Men's Fitness: How long do women really want to have sex?

 

The only time a girl will ever want to have sex for less than seven minutes is when it’s in an airplane bathroom and she wants bragging rights. But in general, it’s fine to have sex of varying lengths, as long as we’re talking more than five minutes. Even though a 2012 study conducted by Australian sex therapists showed that quickies can be experienced as satisfying, trust me: No woman wants every time to be hovering around the five-minute mark.

Other research shows that it takes women an average of 20 minutes from initial arousal until orgasm. Now this doesn’t necessarily translate to 20 minutes of solid sex. Maybe it’s 10 minutes of foreplay followed by 10 minutes of sex.

In any case, 20 minutes is a good range to shoot for. But if your goal is to get her to climax, it might be smart to add a little more foreplay. And if you do have a misfire and she’s not finished, remember that sex doesn’t have to end when you do.

How To Give A Hands-Free Massage For The Ultimate Pleasure

There’s a whole new kind of meditative sexuality for those who haven’t yet learned about tantra, and it helps with stress, anxiety, confidence, and independence.

Having a physical orgasm without external stimulation, or “energy orgasming,” is possible for anyone who struggles to experience orgasm partnered or through masturbation, whether because of physical disability, sexual phobias, anxiety intimacy, or lack of genital sensation.

Slowing down the erotic experience and feeling your body power up and strengthen in intensity toward orgasm, then allowing sensations to wash over you and feeling pleasure freely for as long as your body needs, is a sexual meditative trance that is difficult to measure or even explain.

Many women are capable of hands-free orgasm, though science knows little about how it happens in the body and brain. Some women can orgasm from nipple stimulation or even sexy stories. It’s possible to contract and relax pelvic muscles, squeezing and releasing the internal and external clitoral tissue to achieve orgasm.

To attempt hands-free orgasms, don’t pressure your partner. Relax, enjoy erotic feelings, breathe and touch slowly and purposefully. If words help, use them…they can become cues to the body over time. Let sensation take over, letting stress, worry, negative and overwhelming emotion go…allow only love and ecstasy to be present as you’re together.

Energy orgasms happen best when you don’t try too hard…enable energy to slide over your skin, through your body…touch one another’s bodies, wherever you like the most. Lower your boundaries and let go of yourselves and your preconception about sex. And remember, practice makes perfect!

When attempting a hands-free orgasm, first set the mood. Ambiance matters; if women can’t feel relaxed, orgasms take much longer, if they happen at all.
Dim the lights, grab a towel, make sure the room isn’t too cold or too hot so that she’s comfortable when naked, make the room smell nice (scented candles are a great thing to have), and play some relaxing music on a low volume.

There’s a trending technique of no-hands pleasuring called “Nuru,” (meaning “slippery”) in which both partners get entirely camouflaged in massage gel and use your bodies to endearment, rub, tickle, knead, slip, slide and stroke all over the other person’s body.

It’s a mutual massage in which you hold one another firmly but gently, pressing around slowly for hours in a sensual and intimate massage that increases arousal. Body slide over one another and discover what feels good, using your chin, elbows, butt, and nipples to slide to an eventual orgasm.

It can be messy, but the weightless freedom coupled with a new and exciting sex act can be exquisite. Slippery and unencumbered, partners tend to find new imaginative ways to feel great. And habits or routines that partners have had for a long time eventually are less pleasing; things start to get a little boring.

The sex they have had doesn’t have the same compelling aura as does something new and unknown. Trying something new can help men have stronger erections, and great sex is the glue that holds relationships (and health) together.

We all know how good hug feel (especially when naked). When both partners are slippery and connecting without any friction (just emotion and touch), and they let loose and experiment a bit on one another, they can change poses and figure out what feels good. It’s erotic, pleasant, healthy and fun. It’s excellent foreplay and doesn’t even use your hands.

Sensual massage, incorporating a highly secret and relaxing experience into your lives, allows both to receive pleasure without any pressure of performance and to assimilate an alternative source of intimacy into your relationship.

Giving what’s often called a “tantric” massage is an exquisite way to bond, relieve stress, and communicate to ensure both of you are comfortable with the intimacy occurring.
Try gradually assimilating amorous zones into the basic massage, watching for verbal and nonverbal feedback from your partner to show you how satisfied and comfortable she is at each stage and focusing on pressure on the most pleasurable areas.

Use your tongue and mouth to kiss, lick and breathe on your partner’s skin. Try using grapeseed oil; it doesn’t irritate women’s vaginas. Also, rose oil smells great, and sandalwood oil is known to help increase libido.

Have her lay down comfortably either face up or face down; both positions allows you access to the sensitive regions. Begin by using your body, not your hands, to massage her chest, arms, thighs, and hands.

Stroke her breasts and nipples or thoroughly massage her buttocks in a circular motion. Glide down her body and gently stroke the regions surrounding the genitals, building up her anticipation and making her aroused.

As her arousal begins to increase give her a genital massage in which you caress her rather than just touch her (again, not using your hands!). This will please her. If she’s not getting wet enough, apply some lubrication, particularly when massaging her clitoris. Gently apply pressure to her body, vulva, and labia lips. Lightly increase pressure on her clitoris as arousal increases, remembering that some women don’t find clitoral stimulation pleasing.

And ask her to help you find her clitoris if you can’t! Use a circular and figure-eight motion, use breathes and your tongue to steadily, slowly and gently increase the amount of pressure. If she reaches orgasm, move on to her labia (as her clitoris will be highly sensitive for a short time).

Try exploring her internal genitals (if a woman isn’t yet aroused, penetration is usually uncomfortable…so be patient) by stimulating her perhaps with a toy. Once complete, allow her to relax peacefully, consider taking a romantic hot bath together if she likes, or even just let her fall asleep in your arms if she wants.
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What Is Female Orgasm? Know The Types And Facts About It

What is Female Orgasm?

Female orgasm is an abrupt discharge of accumulated sexual tension in females. Orgasm is the climax part of the sexual response cycle. During orgasm, muscular contractions occur in the pelvic region followed by intense sexual pleasure. Typical female orgasm results from sexual stimulation of the clitoris.

Orgasm offers one of the best feelings for both male and female. Orgasm is defined as the climax of sexual intercourse. Women are able to have multiple orgasms in a rapid succession, and the study proves it. On the other hand, men are not able to have multiple orgasms in a rapid succession. In this article, we’re going to discuss the 10 most explosive female orgasms, which is a very interesting topic.

What are the Facts About Female Orgasms?

• Most women achieve orgasm after about 20 minutes of clitoral stimulation.
• Approximately 24-37% of women cannot achieve orgasm.
• Orgasm relieves menstrual cramps and alleviates stress due to the surge in Oxytocin.
• Masturbating helps women in learning how to achieve an orgasm.
• Cognitive behavioral therapy and natural herbs with aphrodisiac properties help treat orgasmic related problems in women.

What are the Different Types of Female Orgasm?

• Clitoral Orgasm – The clitoris is the king of sexual sensation. With 8,000 nerve endings, this external small organ is the most sensitive part of the female’s external body parts.
• Vaginal Orgasm – Direct penetration is the second way to achieve an orgasm.
• Blended Orgasm – Is the most pleasurable because it includes all sex-stimulating machines, the clitoris and the vagina.

10 Most Explosive Female Orgasms

You may be surprised to know, but there is more than one type of female orgasms. It sounds strange, but it’s the fact. Let’s take a look at the 10 most explosive female orgasms every woman would love to achieve.

1. Vaginal Orgasm

It’s not men who are controlling women’s orgasm and the type of orgasms. Sometimes, it’s depended upon biology. Women who have a shorter distance between their urethral meatus and clitoris are more likely to experience this type of orgasm.

2. Clitoral Orgasm

Clitoral Orgasm, type of orgasm is the easiest orgasm for women to achieve. The clitoris is surrounded by thousands of nerve fibers. This is the reason why this type of orgasm is so much more common among women.

3. G-Spot Orgasm

G-Spot Orgasm! You heard it right. It’s G-Spot Orgasm, and it’s one of the types of female orgasm. This female orgasm sounds difficult, and it’s actually difficult for women to achieve this orgasm. G-Spot indicates the frontal region of the vagina. To be more precise, this indicates the area between the cervix and the pubic bone. This area is pretty sensitive, and it even has the ability to make some women ejaculate.

4. A-Spot Orgasm

A-Spot Orgasm follows up after the G-Spot Orgasm. A female orgasm is really strange, isn’t it? This type of orgasm is quite possible for women to achieve. This orgasm is not popular among women, but it will definitely make you feel good. To achieve this orgasm, the stimulation in the 7-10 cm of the frontal area of your vagina is enough.

5. Breast Orgasm

For those women who are struggling to achieve an orgasm, this type of orgasm may seem impossible for them. However, the study shows that it’s possible to achieve this type of orgasm. It could be achieved with the stimulation of the breasts.

6. Oral Orgasm

Oral Orgasm seems even more impossible than breast orgasm. This type of orgasm is not very easy to achieve. However, there are incidents where some women have been able to experience sensation in their mouth.

What do you mean by sensation in the mouth? You must be questioning this to yourself. It’s true that mouth is not regarded as a sexual organ. However, there are women who have very sensitive mouths. Their mouths are so sensitive that they are able to feel the heat in their mouth during the climax.

The chance of achieving this type of orgasm depends upon the sensitivity of the woman’s mouth.

7. Deep Spot Orgasm

Women can achieve this orgasm with the stimulation of the vagina’s back wall, which is just before the cervix. It’s easier to explain this orgasm, but may not be easy enough to achieve.

8. U-Spot Orgasm

G-Spot Orgasm, A-Spot Orgasm, and now we will discuss of U-Spot Orgasm. This type of orgasm is difficult to master, but it can be achieved. One can get this type of orgasm with the stimulation of both the sides of the urethra opening.

9. Skin Orgasm

Anything from massage or facial can lead to a skin orgasm. However, this type of orgasm is seen only among fewer people.

10. Mental Orgasm

This is a weird type of orgasm. It occurs when you’re highly focused in sexual activities. This type of orgasm occurs even without a sexual intercourse or even without touching. Some women experience it just by watching X-rated movies or by watching others involved in intercourse.

What Does An Orgasm Feel Like?

An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling in the genital area that spreads to the rest of the body at the same time. When a woman is turned on, hormones accumulate and muscle tension builds up around the pelvis, which releases during an orgasm. The result is muscle tension release and an intense pleasure feeling.

What If I’ve Never Had An Orgasm?

If you’ve never had an orgasm, there is no reason to panic. Lack of orgasm during sex isn’t news to some women. The good news is that, you can learn to have an orgasm. Women are different when it comes to achieving an orgasm. On the other hand, your partner plays a big role in turning you on. Therefore, discuss incorporating foreplay orgasm in your sexual routine as this is said to be crucial to women in achieving an orgasm. Also, explore sexual positions that make it easier for you to achieve an orgasm.

How Can I Orgasm With a Partner?

You can experience sufficient orgasm through vaginal intercourse, cunnilingus (oral sex) or masturbation. However, physical sexual stimulation of the clitoris by your partner is the most effective and satisfying way to have orgasm. Most women require manual, consistence and intense clitoral touch to achieve orgasm. Direct vaginal penetration is also sufficient in achieving an orgasm. Climaxing at the same time with your partner can be exciting and bring you closer together. This is difficult to achieve as men generally orgasm faster than women. The best way to orgasm with your partner is to ensure that you are sufficiently turned on through foreplay and to have poses in between sex to postpone your partner’s orgasm.

Are You Having Trouble Reaching Orgasm?

If you’re having troubles reaching orgasm, you’re not alone because this is a common problem. Achieving the elusive orgasm is not automatic. It needs time, a lot of intense stimulation and may require both physical and psychological stimulation.

Is Female Orgasm Important for Getting Pregnant?

You can conceive without having to achieve an orgasm. This is the reason why most studies about women’s orgasm has never been an important topic in sex medicine until the resent years. Getting pregnant is a different goal compared to having an orgasm. However, there are statistics showing a positive relationship between orgasm and conception due to the fact that orgasm increases Oxytocin hormone which is responsible for uterine wall contractions that coax sperms towards the ovary.

Is it Possible to Delay Female Orgasm?

Delaying female orgasm is possible. Some women can take up to an hour to achieve an orgasm. This depends with your desire and your goal. You can have penetrative sex for a whole hour without achieving an orgasm. This is because most orgasms are achieved through clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal penetration.

How Women too Suffer From Premature Orgasms?

In recent days, premature orgasm has been classified as a female sexual dysfunction because it too can causes serious distress. If you orgasm too early, your partner will be left feeling dissatisfied and resentful. Hence, a premature orgasm can frustrate and distress women.

How to Boost Female Orgasm with Natural Libido Enhancers?

There are a number of natural libido enhancers but one needs to find the most appropriate product. Natural dietary supplements and herbal libido enhancements can help you get back to a healthy sex life. These products have aphrodisiac ingredients that increase libido in women.

Orgasms vary in intensity and frequency. The amount of stimulation required also varies from woman to woman. One of the best ways to cure an orgasmic problem is exploring your body alone. Do this when there is no pressure around. You can explore your body especially your genitals to discover your most sensitive parts. Since no one will rush you when alone, try to experiment different sensation methods, fantasize about what turns you on, masturbate and with time you will be achieving more orgasms. Learning how to orgasm might not give you immediate results. It takes time and requires consistency. When learning, you can also involve your partner since he contributes a greater percentage in making you achieve a pleasurable orgasm.

Conclusion

Which one of these orgasms is your favorite one? I guess all. It’s because every single of these orgasms provides a wonderful experience. Every single woman would love to have at least one of these orgasms in their lifetime.

The statistics show that only 25% of the women are able to consistently reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse, which is not a good thing. If you’re having a trouble with not having a satisfying orgasm, then you can search for the ways to improve your orgasm. Yes, it’s possible, and it will help you to enhance your sex life.
You can also give a try to female enhancement product such as V-Tight Gel, which may help you get aroused more.

9 Sex Tips From Lesbians to Help Hetero Women Have More and Better Orgasms

When it comes to coming, women who sleep with women have got it on lock. One study published in The Journal of Sexual Medicine looked at the relationship between sexual preference and orgasm. Researchers found that lesbians were far more likely to orgasm during sex than their hetero or bisexual female counterparts.

That’s not the only research showing that same-sex-loving women scored more orgasms. A second study published in Archives of Sexual Behavior concluded that women who sleep with men had sex about 15 times a month on average, while women who sleep with women did it roughly 10 times a month. Despite the fact that they had less sex month over month, the lesbians in the study were three times as likely to always orgasm compared to the hetero ladies.

RELATED: These Are the Moves That Really Make Women Orgasm, According to Science

Sure you could look at the data and decide to ditch dudes—and set yourself up for a more orgasmic sex life. But if you’re not interested in taking a dip in the lady pond, that won’t work. Instead, absorb the tips these non-hetero women want straight chicks to know about how to have better, more orgasmic action when they hit the sheets with their male partners.

Don’t stress about having an orgasm

It might sound counterintuitive, but if you want to orgasm, stop obsessing over it. “It’s so easy for me to get in my head about how long it takes me to reach an orgasm," shares Rachel Turner, 24. "Then all I’m focused on is reaching the end point, which ruins the mood. But I’ve learned that sex is so much more than [having an orgasm]. It’s about the process of the sex, the journey. When you allow yourself to focus on the enjoyment and pleasure of each moment and touch and less on reaching that end goal, you’ll find yourself feeling much more relaxed and connected to the person you’re with."

Focus on your breasts 

Sporting sexy lingerie, getting a nipple piercing, and trying out breast-centered sex positions are just some of the ways to get your breasts and nipples (a major erogenous zone) in on the action. But sometimes giving your boobs the attention they crave is as simple as asking. 

“I love having my nipples played with during both the foreplay and the sex. It’s what I need to orgasm, so I’ve learned to just ask for it,” one 26-year-old woman says. “And don’t hesitate to give a little direction about how you want them touched,” she adds. From squeezing to licking to biting to having them cupped, these are all pretty different sensations.

 

Rely on your c-spot

“I can’t overstate this: Clitoral stimulation is where it’s at for me! I can’t reach orgasm solely through penetration, so when I want to orgasm I’ll either touch my own clit while my partner (or a sex toy) is inside of me," one 30-year-old woman shares. "Or I’ll ask my partner to touch my clit with her mouth, a vibrator, a hand, depending on what kind of pressure I’m craving."

Laugh off awkward moments

Let’s admit it, sex IRL isn’t always (okay, ever) like it is in the movies. “My perspective on sex changed remarkably when someone told me, ‘if you don’t laugh at least once during sex, you’re doing it wrong’ . . . this reminds me that sex is often awkward, clumsy, and embarrassing and that’s perfectly okay," says 23-year-old Kelsey Park Smith. "Sex doesn’t always flow; arms get tired, bodies make noises, sheets get in the way, you almost fall off the bed from time to time, and I wholeheartedly believe that there is no sexy way to take off jeans. But learning to laugh at these moments helped me take the pressure off of creating the 'perfect' sexual experience every time."

Speak up about what you want

What feels good? What just feels meh? What do you need more of? Make sure your partner knows the answers to these questions, and orgasms will be easier to come by. “It’s not bossy to communicate before, during, or after sex," says Park Smith. "You know yourself and your body better than anyone else does. If what your partner is doing isn’t working for you, tell them what does. There’s no need to feel like you have to just go along with what they’re doing or fake pleasure to avoid hurting their feelings. It’s a better experience for everyone involved if you communicate freely and honestly."

 

Focus on your partner

Whether you're having a one-time fling or doing it with a long-time partner, it’s easy to get wrapped up in the sex itself and forget about the person. That’s why one 27-year-old woman suggests this. “Be there with your partner. Say their name or look them in the eye. Don’t just enjoy the sex, enjoy the person.” Focus on their breathing, what turns them on, and the way they touch and kiss, and before you realize it, your body might be a lot closer to climax that if you were only thinking of yourself.

Hit the brakes

Most of us think about foreplay as the appetizer we rush through to the main course, which is exactly the opposite approach to take if you're planning to reach O town. “Whether it’s your first time hooking up ever, or you’ve had too many [partners] to count, don’t forget to enjoy the process of leading up to and making your partner orgasm," advises Karli Buckley, 24. "There’s a time and a lace for a quickie, but remember to slow down and indulge yourself in your partner's body and let them indulge in your body, too!"

Use dirty talk

“Communication, communication, communication. It doesn’t matter if you’ve slept together one thousand times or if this is the first time. Talk! Let your partner know what you want, let them know if it isn’t working, and let them know if it is,” says 28-year-old Hanna Botney. “And take a second to tell your partner what you what to do, whether its licking, touching, penetrating, teasing, whatever. Not only is it sexy to hear this and will give you the recipe for what your partner wants in that exact moment, but it will also make you feel sexy,” she says. A few of her favorites: “I want to taste you.” “Do you want to have sex?” “I want to touch you here.” 

 

Experiment with sex toys that don't resemble a penis

Sure, dildos, eggplant-shaped vibrators, and strap-ons can be great. But penis-shaped toys aren’t your only option. In fat, there’s a whole world of toys out there that may be better suited to your and your partners needs and sexual identities. “I like to use sex toys to switch it up in the bedroom," says one 32-year-old woman. "While your partner needs to be open to experimenting too, toys can be a great way to increase pleasure on both sides! If your partner isn’t jazzed about bringing a big purple cock-shaped toy into bed, try another toy: butt plugs, prostate massager, not-so-phallic vibes, whatever—there’s a huge selection of toys out there!"