Prostate Massage: The Perfect Male Orgasm, Dissected

If you want to get on a guy's good side, you'll have to get on a guy's backside.  Even though plenty of men will shy away from the fact that they are actually quite down to have you play with their hole, they're not always going to be quite so eager to mention it.  This is touchy business, so you've got to approach it with mucho sensitivity.  That being said, once you've got your hands on his business (with his to, his anus), you'll want to know exactly how to handle the goods.  Keep reading to learn more about the best prostate massage for the ultimate male orgasm.

The power of the prostate. Timid though they may be, guys love themselves some anal play. They’re never going to admit this, of course (not all of them, at least), but it’s true — and you can thank the all powerful prostate for this. The thing is, though, guys are sensitive. So you’re going to have to be just as sensitive when approaching them about this.

The hidden secret. Truth be told, the prostate is kind of a hidden secret. It’s small. It’s hidden. But it is also quite the goddamn sexual powerhouse. It’s kind of like the male secret weapon in sex, but one that you can use when you want to prove to him that you know exactly what it takes to make him feel as good as humanly possible.

Butt fear. The thing is, as amazing as a guy will feel once his prostate is getting attention, actually getting to his prostate will be a challenge in and of itself. A lot of guys (straight ones, especially) view the butt purely as an exit, not an entrance. So, before anything even goes down, you’ll have to get past the mental block that far too many men allow to build up inside of them.

Easing in. When it comes to gaining access to his prostate, you’ll have to ease. Literally and figuratively. The butt is a sensitive area, so if you want to show him the time of his life, you’ll have to get him comfortable around the idea of having anything (whether it’s a finger or a toy) up his butt.

The big show. Once you’ve figured out how to ease him into accepting the fact that his butthole is as much of an exit as it is an entrance, it’s finally time to get the ball rolling. You can now finally show him exactly what he’s been missing, and how it’s been inside him all this time (literally).

The O & P. If your man is seeking the ultimate orgasm, then he’s come to the right place. Now that you’ve been allowed access to his P-spot, you’ll bear witness to the ultimate O-face. This is because when the prostate is getting attention during sex, his orgasm is going to be on a whole other level, and he’ll never want to go back once he’s given it a shot.

Going deep. Gaining access to his prostate his simple enough. You simply start by entering him through his anus (start with a finger just to get him accustomed to it, but understand that even a single finger can cause discomfort). Once you’re in, the job is pretty much halfway done. You’ve breached the wall, so to speak, and the next step is simply finding his P-spot.

Discovering his prostate. Luckily for you, finding his prostate isn’t really going to be much of a challenge. The only “challenge” will come from the fact that you won’t be able to physically see it. But that’s OK. All you need to do is read his expressions and listen to his moans. Once you’ve found it, you’ll know.

Pressure on the prostate. Once you’ve found his prostate (it’s about a finger’s length in from his anus), you’ll be finally be able to show him a good time. Just don’t get over-excited. You’ll want to simply apply the faintest amount of pressure, as it’s sensitive enough to feel pretty much any “foreign object” that’s coming into contact with it.

Testing the waters. Now that he’s finally understanding why prostate play is so widely praised, he’s going to start getting a better idea of what feels good and what doesn’t. If he wants more pressure, simply (but slightly) curl your finger upward (if you’ve ever seen a curved dildo, sort of copy that). You’re going to essentially massage it.

Dual-masturbation. Once he’s gotten comfortable with the sensation of having something up his butt, he’s about to feel the full benefit of prostate massages. Apply some lotion to his penis and start stroking him. This will undoubtedly be the greatest hand job he’s ever gotten, and it’s basically a two-in-one gig. The sensations traveling through his body will be unparalleled to anything he’s ever experienced before.

Speaking of lotion… Be sure that when you’re entering him, you’re using a ridiculous amount of a lube. Not a comical amount of lube — just a ridiculous amount. Not only will it make the job easier, it’ll also prevent him from being scared away from ever considering anal play ever again in the future. Once there’s pain, he’s likely going to be out.

Going with the motions. Even though it’s going to feel good regardless, anything that becomes repetitive during sex can easily become boring. So, switch it up. Move your finger in small circles, apply more fingers, turn on the vibrating feature on whatever toy you’re using…

The point of the prostate. Now that we’re comfortable with having fun, it wouldn’t hurt to have a better understanding of what a prostate is for in the first place. According to Lelo.com, it’s a “semen-storing gland” located just beneath the bladder, it’s about the size of a walnut.

Pegging. Now that we’ve got a better understanding of the prostate and how it’ll make your man feel as good as he’s probably felt in a very long time, we’ve got one final topic to cover (and we’ll cover it briefly, so as to not scare any of the men away). Pegging is when the man is penetrated by a woman wearing a strap-on toy. So if it turns out that anal play is his thing, this might be more up his alley than either you or he ever would have expected.