The Ancient and Forgotten Art of the Super-Orgasm

There’s more than one way to have sex. We’re not just talking about positions. This ancient female-centered technique will bring you to superorgasm. That’s right. The art of pompoir involves using your vaginal muscles to drive the sexual union rather than having the man do all the thrusting. In fact, there's no thrusting, rocking, or grinding. It's all in your muscle contraction. If you’ve been doing your kegels, you know how to start. But the techniques go further. Originally sourced from Alternet, this is the ancient art of superorgasms.

Sexercise. Pompoir is good for your libido, and your body. Work your muscles while you sex him up.

Kabazza. This practice is known as “kabazzah” in Arabic languages. According to Collins dictionary, it is when “the female uses her abdominal muscle contractions to stimulate the penis of the male partner -- who must remain totally passive.” So all he needs to do is relax.

Singapore kiss. It’s also referred to as the “Singapore kiss” or the “Shanghai kiss.” Pompoir is the new term, which means “playing the flute.” It is when the woman uses her pubococcygeus muscles to stroke a man’s erection.

Ancient. This technique originated in India 3,000 years ago. It was practiced widely in Japan and Thailand, and eventually made its way to the Mediterranean. According to Alternet, “Hindu Devadasis, Greek courtesans and Japanese geishas were all known to have been skilled in the art of pompoir.”

Vagina power. Male penis size is often looked at as the most important thing. But what about vaginal strength? If you learn to do these exercises, his size will matter less.

On top. Pompoir works best when the woman is on top. The practice demands complete female control. And she can flex her muscles better than when lying down.

Beyond Kegels. It’s not just like doing kegel exercises. Denise Costa, author of the Pompoir Book, told Alternet, “pompoir is a bit more extensive… By doing contractions, squeezing, pushing and pulling the ladies learn how to manipulate the pelvic muscles. That’s where they can learn the sexual skills to the point where they can twist the penis just by moving their pelvic muscles. It’s reported to be an amazing sensation.”

Try at home. If you want to practice at home, use your finger! Try tightening your PC muscles around your finger to see how they feel. Then try some of these techniques...

Sucking. Not talking about the oral kind. Women can suck with their vaginas, too. The pull ability allows women to suck the penis into them.

How? Doing pompoir takes a lot of practice. Tantra Ecstasy gives this advice for the pull-in method: “Pull up the entire pelvic floor as though trying to suck water into the yoni, and then push out or bear down as if trying to push the water out. This exercise uses the abdominal muscles as well as the PC muscles. Do this five times in a row. Build up to 10 sets.”

The short squeeze. The short squeeze is the beginner pompoir exercise. You quickly contract your PC muscles 10 times. Inhale when you contract, exhale when you release.

Long Squeeze. Start holding the muscle contractions longer, for about three seconds. Relax between contractions. Try to do 50 of these.

Milking the Lingam. Once you are ready to try this on your man, tell him to lie down. Get on top of him and stimulate him until he is erect. Insert his lingam.

No thrusting. Don’t thrust or rock, but you can caress each other for arousal. Continue flexing and contracting your PC muscles. He should be intensely aroused after 10 or 15 minutes.

Rhythm. Once you find a rhythm, remember no rocking, you can milk his lingam until he ejaculates. Go faster once he nears climaxing, and continue for a few seconds after he finishes.