It’s pretty easy to know whether or not you’re being satisfied during sex, but when it comes to knowing if your is enjoying it as much as you are, the signs might not be so obvious. A lot of times, your partner might not tell you when something isn’t working out of embarrassment or not wanting to hurt your feelings. So that’s why here, we’ve compiled a list of signs to look out for that might help you distinguish between when she’s genuinely enjoying it, or if she’s simply pretending out of politeness.
Quiet. Women tend to be pretty vocal when they’re enjoying something, so if you’re not hearing any “oohs” or “ahhs” coming from her, chances are, you’re doing moves might need a little work. And if you’re wondering whether or not she’s orgasmed, trust us— you’ll know.
Movement. A woman who isn’t enjoying herself will let you know with her body. She’ll guide your mouth in the direction that feels good for her, and she’ll probably try to adjust herself as much as possible so that your tongue is hitting all the right spots.
Facial expressions. Sometimes, the look on someone’s face says it all. If you see that she doesn’t seem at all excited or pleased at what’s taking place, chances are, it’s because she’s not. A woman’s orgasm face isn’t easily mistaken so if you don’t see that happening, you might need some fine tuning.
Denial. If you find yourself practically begging her to let you go down on her, she probably doesn’t want it. Most women are quick to take up that offer, so if she’s opting out, there might be something wrong with the way you’re performing.
Orgasm. Perhaps the most obvious sign that you’re not so good at oral sex is the fact that your partner isn’t finishing. While she might enjoy the actual act itself and appreciates the effort you’re putting in, it doesn’t mean you’re satisfying her completely.
Rush. Anything that’s worth enjoying takes time. If you’re rushing and keep pressuring her to orgasm or are constantly asking her if she’s done yet, you might as well not even go down on her in the first place.
Boring. You stick to one move, and you’re afraid to try something new. There’s nothing worse than being in bed with someone who’s afraid to switch things up a bit. If you’ve been using the same moves you’ve learned since you lost your virginity, it might be time to educate yourself on alternative methods to giving oral sex. (Spoiler alert: it doesn’t just involve using your tongue!)
Pain. If you’re physically causing her any type of pain, you’re probably being too aggressive and not being patient or careful enough. If you keep hearing “ouch” or “stop!” you’re probably doing more harm than you are good.
Progress! So now that you’ve read the signs, you might’ve come recognized some of these oral sex no no’s, and realized that you’re guilty of doing some, or all of them. The good thing is, there’s always room for improvement, and you shouldn’t consider you, or your sex life, a lost cause.
Communicate. One of the best things you can do if you’re unsure about what you’re doing, is to ask her what feels good and what doesn’t. A lot of times, women are too shy to speak up, but if you’re the one doing the asking, she’ll probably be more likely to tell you the truth.
Hands. While oral sex consists mostly of using your mouth and tongue, you can also use your hands for added pleasure. While using your tongue, you can simultaneously use your finger to stimulate her G-spot.
Positions. Switch up your positions and see what feels best for her. Try a chair, try a 69 position, or even try something more challenging like doing it in a hammock or catching her by surprise in the morning.
Foreplay. Take some time to tease her before you actually get down to business. The anticipation that builds up will have her on edge, so that when you finally do get to it, she’ll be ecstatic.
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